“In life, you can either be an energy sucker or an energy creator. Are you someone who’s draining, or do you leave other people inspired? Consider who you are in relation to others’ life force. When you’re inauthentic, it’s inherent that you won’t create energy; there’s no light in your eyes. But when you’re in your power, there’s a kind of charisma. You walk into the room and the lights get brighter, people sit up a little straighter, and energy gets generated. That’s called asteya — being someone who generates life.” — Baron Baptiste, Being of Power
On this Friday morning, having taken Zappa for a nice long walk in the park watching the Blue Herons wading through ankle-deep creek water, having enjoyed half a pot of coffee with a little soy creamer as I caught up on some long-distance emailing at my kitchen table, having consumed my favorite morning smoothie with cashews, berries, kale, banana, and flax seeds: I’m left considering just how lucky I am that this is my life. None of those things may seem singularly all that impressive, and maybe they aren’t at all anyway. But for me, they mean that I am really taking deep, great joy in the small things I choose in my life. Everything about how I’ve spent my day so far is exactly in line with who I want to be.
And I’m about to meet up with some of the most inspiring, amazing friends for a yoga class and lunch. There’s no doubt in my mind that they’re energy creators, that they are living and walking and breathing asteya with the entirety of their beings: starting businesses, taking on 365 day sweat challenges, balancing work and school and health and friends and loving every minute of it, and encouraging the people around them to take similar risks, to pursue goals and dreams. I am so thankful to have their support and inspiration to feed my own energy and authenticity.
I wrote, in an email this morning, that the highlight of my week (and this should tell you how exciting my life is these days) was scoring a juicer on clearance at Bed Bath & Beyond yesterday. (And seriously, words cannot express what this means to me. Excited doesn’t even begin to cover it. More like: a sudden awareness that my life has been dramatically altered in the most incredible way.) And that was the highlight, although perhaps the more exciting news is that I chopped my thumb open while trying to filet open a spaghetti squash, and had the joy of spending three hours in the ER waiting to get stitched up as I bled through bandages.
This injury would be the perfect excuse to bail on yoga and lunch. It would be rational, probably encouraged — I haven’t worked out exactly how I’m going to handle a down dog, but I suspect this will be a great excuse to work on my dolphin pose instead (hello, shoulders & core!).
Today, I recognize that I need to bask in the light and asteya of my friends right now. I need a little bit of what they’re generating. I need to express my gratitude and my acceptance of them by being there on my mat in the room with them. I like to think that I live a life of asteya, that I’m an energy creator, a life generator, and today, I think the best way I can express that is by giving thanks to those who inspire and energize me. Maybe I’ll show up injured on my mat, but that doesn’t mean I’m going to show up small. I’m still going to be present, with my whole heart, basking in the beauty of so many amazing individuals who are up to big things in their lives. So today, it’s a fitting start to the weekend: I’m grateful for asteya, for my friends. The inspiration for my life, the permission we give each other to shine.
Have the best weekend. Don’t forget to give thanks for the people generating asteya in your life — and life’s simple pleasures. How you fill your free time is a reflection of who you are and what you’re up to in life: how are you going to spend the weekend?! xoxo